False attention.

There is always a moment in me when I question if a person is really listening. Hear but is it listening. Listening but is it understanding. Understanding but does it mean anything?

Decades of evolution in many different languages, yet it takes effort and energy to have effective communication. Communication itself is simple like chit chatting or greeting dialogue. Effective communication, some might say as compassionate listening and speech, only happens when both parties are really relating to one another in speech under relevant context or scope.

I am sensitive when someone gives me false attention or vice versa. It is disappointing when a false attention appear real, later to know that no communication happen. Time wasted too. For example, imagine you explained a situation or event to a friend with date, time and venue. Reaffirmation after reaffirmation, this friend repeatly ask you the same question of when, where and worst, what event.

At this juncture, then comes the moment as mentioned at the beginning of this entry. Is it that the fucker listening with intend to understand or just pretending to give attention for the sake of it? Otherwise can it be an ineffectiveness of myself in conveying the message to that fucker? Now whose the fucker here? Talking is easy, communicatiing is not so easy and effective communication is fucking hard! from my stand point. What about you?